Marriage with an Unbeliever is... Impossible

Victor Porton, mission Contact with God

A Story of a Temptation

For a beginning I'll tell you a story from my own life.

I was that time a believer some about two years. Once the Devil attacked me and caused me to fall in love to a girl which was quite common, special in nothing. This was namely an attack of the Devil as this feeling had no special natural reasons (the girl was quite common) but the feeling was awfully strong. I even suspect that it was a magical charm.

I quite realized that this is a complete madness, I just was going out of mind. Among that the girl was not a believer (and this is already a full stop), we just had nothing at all in common. This was equal to marry with a wild having four legs. At last namely such was the difference of our intellectual levels: God has given me the true faith and talents while she was just a common girl.

So imagine yourself in the likewise situation: You've felt to love to a dog and you are uncontrollably pulled to go into the dogs' troop to begin live like a dog: to bark, live at the street and run on four legs, like all others do. This is the difference of life of a true Christian preacher which I indeed became (and also every Christian) and a common man which meddles only in the affairs of money and of his family and does not think.

As so it is impossible to live one life for these who have nothing common nor in purposes nor in opinions. Only if one of these would just cease to be himself, would die as a person, would be transformed to something quite different like a caterpillar is transformed into a butterfly. (Not the best comparison as a caterpillar is transformed to a higher form of life, while they tried to transform me into a lower form of life.) I don't know whether this would be a destruction of neural structure of my brain (and its transformation to something more primitive) but this would be a real lost (almost full destruction) of my soul, undoubtfully. I thought, I will be unable to return to the life.

I fought with the temptation to the end. The most hard thing was that the feeling was mutual and she wanted to get me for any price. I fled from she through the entire city and she searched and persecuted me. To suppress this silly feeling I got about twelve knitting needles and perforated my body with them. (Afterwards God has completely cured me so that no any damages are left.) The most important was to not cease to do something, if I would stop the thoughts again go to the catch "I must not think about she, about she.. she..." For this reason I traveled much in buses, so people was choped with my needles and loudly cried from pain.

I rolled on the ground, loudly cried, wailed, beaten myself fighting with the madness which was trying to transform me again into a common man....

So it was several days.

The end of this story was comical: I came at a Sunday into a church and met there an other sympathetic girl. The feelings switched onto she. This was also mutual. But this time the feelings were not mad but quite normal. This doesn't mean that the feelings were weaker. I'd say, they were not weaker, just this time we was not under control of feelings (the evil magic didn't act anymore) but the feelings was under our control. We together peacefully decided that we are not suitable for each other and with no regret left each other. I enjoyed that God have accomplished my freeing from that madness... and is this important which way He did it? The main thing is that I'm alive and haven't become again a common man, without Holy Spirit, without... anything.

To Resist is Void

After many years after this I realized that this was not needed. It was not necessary to perforate my body with needles, roll on the ground and wail.

It is written in Bible though St. Paul (1Cor. 7:39) A woman is bound by the law while his husband is alive... but if her husband is dead, she is free (or: is able) to marry with one he desires, but only in the Lord. (It can be translated also reversely She is free (or: it is possible regarding she) to be married with one who wants (she), but only in the Lord.) The same obviously is true not only regarding a woman with dead husband but also regarding one who never was married.

So, a married woman is not able (is bound by a law) to be married with an other man, like elephants cannot move to an other planet because they cannot fly (are bound with the law of gravitation) independingly of whether they would desire it. Stop! There was very many occurrences when wives have gone away to others!, you may reply. No, such the occurrences haven't happened as the true marriage is only in the Lord (and so, only of believers); it is written is able to be married only in the Lord, unbelievers have only fake marriage such as a writing signed by state authorities but not signed by God, so these your occurrences are not to be counted. It is clearly written that only believers can marry (can be married... only in the Lord).

This word free means in ancient Greek free from slavery, is not a slave. All of you know that a slave woman cannot be married with one he wants to marry, her decision to marry with somebody doesn't matter. Whenever a slave do, independingly of how much she may want, she cannot become the wife of one she wants. We are slaves of God, and so cannot, do not have the freedom to be married not in the Lord. We have the possibility to marry with whenever we desire in the Lord, but when it is concerned a marriage with an unbeliever we are just slaves (radio controlled robots) to which the Lord will not give a possibility to accomplish this. In us lives Holy Spirit, a part of energy of God is in us, so He can stop us at any moment.

So, it was only an illusion that I am in so awful danger, I was afraid of something which just cannot happen. I would not able to become her husband. My foots would refuse to go or my tongue would fail in the marriage registry office or the penis would not raise at the right time. As it is written is not able, so not able, even if looks like that this will happen just now. To overcome the temptation it would be enough just to understand that this cannot happen.

And one more conclusion from this verse of Bible: We are able to marry with whenever we want! Every of us, believers, can get any woman which he desires, be she a princess, a TV-star, or the girl from the neighbour house herself! (except of the case when she is an unbeliever or in some other way the marriage with she would be against Christ, for example, if she is already given to somebody other.) Also a believing woman can get any man which she desires! (except of the case when he is not a believer etc.) In the Word of God it is written have the possibility to marry with one she desires; with one she desires means with anyone she desires. Is this wonderful as we have the gifts of Holy Spirit which include the ability to influence hearts?

Stop! But how about that brothers which have married with unbelievers? I believe Bible, as it is written is not able, so it really cannot happen! These who married with unbelievers was not true Christians. A true Christian cannot marry with an unbeliever. This never happens (not counting if got into slavery by violence and to rape, but this however isn't true love but just mechanical imitation, yes?)

So, how many fake Christians we have filtered! How much less is the quantity of the true ones than of fake! Christ has said exactly this It is a thin the way leading to life, not many go by it. (However sometimes it so that a false Christian married with an unbeliever and only then after several years understood that he was fake, repented and become a true Christian. So it sometimes indeed happen that Christians are married with unbelievers.)

It is an other matter that even regarding us Christians, our patience sometimes fails and losing self-control, we may bonk with unbelievers, and then we repent. But this is an other matter. Bible tells us to forgive failed into a sin.

Well, there are also the case when somebody unbelieving has become a believer only after the marriage with an other unbeliever. Oh... personally for me this would be just like a nightmare to be with an unbelieving wife, I just do not imagine how I would have sex with she... If you cannot live together, divorce. The word died from 1Cor. 7:39 can be translated also as (spiritually) aslept, ceased to be an active Christian. If your husband ceased to be an active Christian, God doesn't disallow you to go away to an other man.

St. Paul have said, (1Cor. 7) 12 To the others I speak not the Lord: If some brother have unbelieving wife and she is (gladly) agreed to live with him, then let he don't go away from she; 13 and if a wife has an unbelieving husband and he is (gladly) agreed to live with she, let she do not go away from she, 14 because an unbelieving husband is sanctified by a believing wife and an unbelieving wife is sanctified by a believing husband. Otherwise your children would be dirty but now are holy. 15 But if an unbeliever wants to divorce let divorce; a brother or sister in such cases are not bound; to the peace have the Lord called us.

So, am unbelieving husband is sanctified by a believing wife (and the reversely); this means that they was connected together before becoming a believer and this connection may be left unbroken after one of them has become a believer, and an unbeliever become a littly holy together with the holy spouse. This also is transferred to the children. A part of holiness is transferred through their sexual love also to the children. It is the reason why not only Christians can fly into cosmos during orgasm: unbelievers which have this ability are either descendants of Christians or have stealed an (infinitely small) part of our energy.

This link (called marriage love) may be left unbroken when one of the two unbelieving spouses become a believer. But it never can spring up between an unbeliever and already a believer.

One More Story (about Prostitution)

Once in a church a pastor erroneously began to marry me with a girl. Just by mistake, I was at all not going to marry with she. I said, Stop! I do not love she. But he indeed continued to speak about our marriage. I said, Why I would marry with she as I don't love she, except for only to get her money. To marry with an American was prestigious. (She was an American.) I've said that I'm not going to marry with an American to go to USA, live here and earn much.

And then something awful happened: The entire room, all who was in the church applauding cried together Marry! Marry! Marry!.. Very good! A church which broadcasts against prostitution, at once entirely all to the last man together and applauding began to request to accomplish an act of prostitution, to enter into sexual relations not accordingly love but for money (well, not for money but to go there with an American wife, what a difference). An act of prostitution in whatever form is not very good.

In Bible is written (1Cor, 6:9-10) Do not deceive yourselves: ... no prostitute... inherits Kingdom of God and (Ep. 5:5) No one prostitute has an inheritance in the Kingdom of Christ and God. Once more, no one of all prostitutes will go to paradise! And there in a whole full of people room, all people to the last man have addressed with the request to accomplish an act of prostitution. I was the only who spoke against. To request from somebody other to become a prostitute is not better that himself to be a prostitute; it is even worse as a prostitute may become a prostitute because of poverty or weakness of the will, but what is the reason and which justification for one who requests to become a prostitute an another? He sins for no reward! Only for pleasure? Or it is not a pleasure to applause at a marriage?

So, in this church was found no one (!) true Christian! All to the last appeared to be adherent to the Hell. A people gathering trying to make somebody a slave (to solve instead of him with who him to marry), isn't it hell? Or it is not a totalitarian sect?

Shame to the prostitutes! Well, what anyway is a use for such a church all members of which will go to hell?

And now you continue to drink tea at you home church meetings, ministers of tea?